During the very last bout of controlled drinking, before he found AA, my husband tried to pressure me into having a third child with this gem:
Maybe I'll stay sober if we have a third child.
My reply: So the two we already have aren't worth it.
Do not do anything you are uncomfortable with. You are not responsible for his sobriety. I remember when I was starting in the program, I journalled over and over - I believe in God and I believe I am not it. If he wants sobriety he will find it no matter what I do. I kept writing it until I believed it. What is the hurry. If he is sober long term -1,2 years, then you can talk.