Anyhow do you think he will stop if we move?
Moving to a new town and getting new friends does not repair a broken childhood and therefore will not resolve the issues that drive him to drink in the first place. So to answer your question....no.
he'll meet new friends that have something intellectual to say
Has anything you've said up this point made a difference? What do you think these new folks will say to change him?
I don't want it to be my fault if it doesn't work out.....
I never wanted it to be my fault either, but regardless of who made the decision to move, my XABF made it my fault anyway. He drank because he could not process his emotions in a healthy way. He drank because he didn't want to be responsible for himself. Both of these reasons led him to blame me to avoid accepting reality. It may be difference for you. This is just my experience.
If you love him, you'll let him go and let him get better on his own. If you love your children, you'll get them to safety. If you love yourself, you'll stop putting him first.
Alice