Hope it all turned out well. It's hard to change old habits but like you said sometimes it's for the best. And you have to think if it was as important to him as it was to her he could have picked her up for lunch or dinner. Just because he wasn't at the home to celebrate didn't mean he couldn't see her. Maybe there is more to it than that, and my comment seems off, (I hope not) but I think there were otherways he could have made being gone less painful for her. Like GiveLove said.. what a self-pitying thing to do. I'm sorry and I hope you were both able to have a good time.
:ghug3