Transformie,
You would tell me that he is just 8 and that he doesn't have the maturity or perspective to understand what he wants vs. what's best for him AND that he can't understand how his words kill you.
If you asked him if he wanted banana pudding for supper or a nice roasted chicken breast with green beans and mashed potatoes, which would he choose? He would take the dessert! Daddy is just the icing on his little cake. They are buddies; they probably play video games; they eat pizza; they stay up late; they sleep in their clothes and don't take a bath! It's one big slumber party. If you were 8, which would you pick?
I struggle with this myself. My oldest is 8, and Daddy, the party boy, is lots more fun than I am.
But you would tell me that he needs you to make the decisions for what's best for him, because Dad can't be trusted to do that.
It's the maternal guilt du jour. If it's not this, it will be something else!