A lot of people have told me to attend Alanon, and I knoe it's probably a good idea, but part of me is scared because I feel like if I do, I'm making a bigger emotional investment in HIM than I should...
I am nice and comfy with this little wall I built up while he was in rehab, and I'm not sure I want to take it down.
I e-mailed him this morning to ask him to share with me about his aftercare plan--what all is in it, did his mom see it--and he wrote back, ignoring my questions and asking if I knew someone who could help him get something moved today out of his old garage. He totally irks me...!
So I wrote back, ignoring HIS question, and asked him if he ended up in a bart last night. I want to freeze him out! Is that wrong? He's an alcoholic ACOA, so I know the issues run deep and complex, i.e. drawing close & pushing away, shame, fear of abandonment, etc. But how do I respond to him? I guess I need to quit prying and asking him questions.