You're doing a great job, RPW. Do you agree with your girlfriend, or are you just doing this to appease her? I can say that I fit your list to a "T" when I first started seeking help for myself. Reading, writing, journaling, learning, counseling, connection -- these small things added up over time and helped transform me. I went from the person my childhood had created (the "default" me), to the person I wanted to be instead
