People say the most painful things when they are in pain.
This person may have been a key enabler in his life. I hope you can dismiss this whisper for what it was.
You are being present for your daughter, and I hope you have someone there for you ,and that we can all be here for YOU.
I know, since I am dealing with the potential of this now, and my A's brother has been in concurrence with me that it is out of our hands....That there was nothing you could do. He keeps saying that you cant make him get the help that is here, and we cant go under with him. And that is true.
Please be kind to yourself.