Agreed!
As CoffeeDrinker so beautifully put it..."alcohlism/drug abuse drove us here, but we landed in the right place"
Trust is just another element of our lives that takes a hit when involved with an A. Trust takes time to rebuild when it has been damaged. It will only happen when the person that betrayed your trust...works honestly at helping you rebuild it. Or...if you did meet someone else...this person would have to behave in a decent honest TRUSTWORTHY manner so that trust can built between you. Trust is not a right of passage...it's earned.
I'm sorry for your pain ellima. It will take time for that to go away...
Don't leave SR...keep coming here. Vent when you need to...it's a safe place for you.
(((HUGS)))