Hello Pat, and pleased to "meet" you.
You've certainly been thru a lot of hardship in your life. As to your original question:
Originally Posted by
Patk 
... do I exhibit ACOA traits ...
I think it doesn't really matter if you have ACOA traits or not. What matter is what actions you are taking in your life to make your life better. You mention in other forums that you have a therapist, and that your are working on staying abstinent from alcohol. I think that is an excellent way to make progress and improve your life.
At the top of this forum there is a list of " 13 Characteristics of Adult Children". You can take that list to your therapist and work out a plan of action to adress whichever of those apply to you.
Mike
