Originally Posted by
Umbrella 
Can someone point me in the right direction for how to come up with my plan?
Thanks so much.
Often times, plans and boundaries are designed to control someone else's behavior, not our own. And as a result, they fail.
Given what you have written thus far, he's out of control and dangereous to himself and others. He is a criminal. Is this acceptable to you? If not, one of you is leaving.
Such departure helps to ensure your own physical safety, dignity and sanity. It is not a tactic to control him. He's an adult and has to find his own bottom. More than likely he will continue to party with or without you. Love does not beat addiction or alcoholism.
Words/promices are meaningless noise at times like this. It's all about his actions. Addiction is progressive.
Have you seen and experienced enough, yet?