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I can almost guarantee that his actual usage is in multiples of this number. No doubt this is the cause of financial strain as much, if not more, than his work situation.

Everyone has stress. Addicts and alcoholics use the "S" word to rationalize their behaviors. You are not the cause of his problems. Blaming you is what alcoholics and addicts tend to do. It's all a load of crap.

If love were all it took to cure someone of addiction/alcoholism, absolutely none of us would be here. One of the greatest hurdles most of us have or are facing is that we assume there is something wrong with us that we can't compel them to snap out of it. And somehow, in all of this, we become shamed which makes absolutely no sense.

Truth is we are all powerless over someone else's addiction/alcoholism. As an aside, strongly consider doubling up on the birth control. Pregnancy and children do not cure addiction or alcoholism.

Sounds like you have put yourself through a lot in just three short months. What about the violence, physical and emotional abuse, porn addiction, alcoholism and drug addiction is acceptable to you?

You did not cause this. You cannot control this. You cannot cure this.

Please pick up a copy of Codependent No More by Melody Beattie. It's at your local library or used for about $2 from Amazon.com.