I don't do holidays with my family anymore.....peace on earth.....not crazies and chaos.....I have a new recovery family. Who needs the chaos? I do love them from a distance and have compassion for them because they are not in recovery and are still on the hamster wheel. If they criticize me I say " I am sorry I am not living up to YOUR expectations of me."....not my expectations of me.......Who needs it?Let go or be dragged.