My now deceased BF began drinking daily by 10:10 am and went to work blasted. Straight rum out of the bottle. One day I said, ya know what? I deserve an asset, not a liability which is what you've become. Once I started to take very small baby steps to rebuild my life, he began to notice the changes in me and the dynamics of the household. He still drank and used his DOC (plural)...but in the end it didn't matter. Whether I focused on the discontented life I was living or focused on my own happiness, the end result would've been the same. Just a matter of delay.