I hate to say it, but I agree with all comments made.
I'm in the process of divorcing my 2nd AH, and it sucks! Was married to the 1st A for 17 years. Don't believe in divorce, am a born again Christian, and think (thought?) that marriage should last for life, and that the vows were sacred. For better for worse, in sickness and in health, 'til death... and so on. I BELIEVED that! In many ways, I still do.
But SBH, had I stayed with either AH, I would literally have died, or at the very least gone completely insane. There are women I meet in Al-Anon who have stoically stayed with their AH's for YEARS. They seem happy enough, having found health and healing in The Program. I have no idea how they do it. I could not have, in either case.
So although the comments you have gotten so far seem to be the norm, it seems to be possible to survive being married to an AH. I don't know what you'll choose to do, but either way, I wish you success and joy.
Hugs!
Tigg