SadButHopeful - I can SO related to these evenings...actually until very recently this was exactly what I went through night after night. Even when he wasn't drinking, he was in the room, watching TV while I did everything. I tried the whole idea of detaching etc....but I have to be honest, when I got married that life was not what I signed up for. I expect that my husband pick up his share of the duties/burdens....his disease/problem should not cause my life to be an absolute h***. I didn't deserve how he treated me or deserve the inner turmoil that I felt everyday. We are now seperated and while I am having a difficult time, and still doing all the work...>>I don'have him just sitting doing nothing anymore which makes it easier! I hope you are able to continue to feel some peace in your relationship.....