Thanks for the vibes, you are right, I know that, I believe that, I just need to remember that. Believe me, I chant the 3 C's constantly, take it a day at a time, Al-Anon, etc. Perhaps I've had enough and I'm putting up my walls of detachment already, though it is hard to do because of my Mom, who depends on me. I told my sister during our family session how this is the same thing we went through with our Dad. She didn't even realize it and doesn't think she is as "bad" as Dad was, though he died at 46 as a result of his health being compromised from the years of heavy drinking. Stuff like that is what makes me wonder why we bother, she isn't really taking is seriously, is providing lip service to appease us all till she gets out. Yeah, I need to quit worrying about what could be and focus on the now.
Thanks TakingCharge!