Hi Trans,
You know I love you, right? But I'm concerned. I know that, as you said everything has changed, and that you are in a SO MUCH better place, and stronger, and taking fantastic care of yourself and your children beautifully. But wouldn't it just be easier if you and he didn't live in the same place? Why did YOU take him in instead of someone else? It was only last month, IIRC, that he was triggering you to distraction. Why risk it again so soon? Just an observation. I may be way off base.