Thread: Should have known better
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Old 12-27-2009, 06:35 PM
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Originally Posted by ranae1221 View Post
I should have known.
How should you have known? I mean this in the most light-hearted way, but who put a crystal ball in your head?

No offense, but after all the learning we do to lower our expectations for our A-parents to protect ourselves from disappointment, this sounds like a strong recipe for disappointment to me. He was doing everything right. He was showing you with actions that he was taking recovery seriously.

Are you a fool for believing his actions? Absolutely not.

Unfortunately, now you have a better gauge for how serious his alcoholism is. And yes it is a tremendous disappointment. And just as you have before, you'll have to manage your relationship with your dad so that you are not so easily wounded by his decisions or his disease (if you see it this way).

Be easy on yourself ranae, and give yourself time and space to be disappointed and hurt. Letting go of the dream your dad could have been all over again is a hard reality to face, so let yourself grieve. *hug smiley pending forums upgrade *
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