I guess I'm just having trouble with what to do with all the anger I have towards her. She's home, probably only because her boyfriend decided to spend the holidays with his own family and she'll be back with him again in another day or so. Am I just supposed to go home and pretend everything is fine? It really eats me up inside to do that. I want her to understand the hurt that she causes. She can't just come home whenever she pleases with no consequences from us.
If I was my parents I would only allow her to come home if she was serious about changing. They just can't bear to do that though. This way, they reason, they at least see her once in awhile.
I'm at a loss with what to get her for her birthday/Christmas as well. Any ideas? I just feel like I am rewarding her bad behavior if I get her something.