Originally Posted by
jacksdaughter 
......can't help feeling hurt, angry and used. Now I am worried everytime he leaves the house.
Words that most of us can relate to.
It took me quite some time to realize that I, not my daughter, was the source of my own hurt, anger and used emotions.
It was my own expectations of her that caused me hurt when she did not do as I though she should do. And sometimes this made me mad. I felt like a tool being used by her until I accepted that she treats me the way I allow her to do.
As for the worry part, well that goes along with being a mama. Heck, I would worry no matter what was going on and I own it. It's my issue.
Regardless of what he's putting into his body, or not, does it make sense to give him a 30-60 deadline to find someplace else to live? In the meantime, guard your valuables, with an emphasis on anything that can be easily hocked and credit cards, ATM cards, library cards and checks, including those in the middle of the deck.