Yep!! I got the same bs about how I MADE him drink; It was ALL my fault, every time he caved in to a drink, and each time I WAS NOT ANYWHERE NEAR HIM.
Last time he began the 'You did this to me" rubbish, I told him he was a dumbo, because if I had enough WOW power to make him drink, I would have used it to
1, keep him sober or
2, make him disappear out of my life.
As neither had happened I figured I had NO power at all, and he was just a brat putting his c**p on to me.
So much for Abracadabra,..............does not work.
God bless