The crazy thing is that I'm not really sitting around the house much (Sat was an exception). I love my job, I do volunteer with 3 different organizations that I truly love. I have good friends, and now great family, and am working on improving and expanding that network to make sure I have good quality people there.
So the obsession thing is a little daunting.
I have started over the past few days to stop myself and repeat "It doesn't matter, it doesn't matter, it just doesn't matter" every time I have a feeling or thougth come into my head about him. I need to just let him go, and I've been reluctant to do that. But I'm forcing myself to now. And it actually helps by just saying this phrase when I need it.
And ya, the holidays really don't help....