Do yourself a favor and get that book. It is about breaking up and how to work thru that (she was also a grief counsouler) but it is a lot more about YOU. About what you can learn from this expereince, why NOT to talk with an ex, and about how to grow, move forward in a new direction than you've ever gone, and create a better life for yourself. Heck, I think it would have benefited me even I was not getting out of relationship. It is just a great tool to help you take a personal inventory and learn aboout yourself and how to create a better life for yourself regarding relationships in general.
NC, you can do it. it gets easier and easier the more days you get under your belt. I promise
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