To keep my sanity, I kept my conversation's short as possible with my ex and only if, it had something to do with our kids. I was a drunk she was a 4 legged well you get the idea. I sobered up and she ah, oh well I'm not going there
that's why divorces cost so much, so two people that shouldn't be together any more don't have to be!!
Nice of you to have done this for her even if, your efforts weren't to appreciated