Welcome to SR, hoping. There is a lot of good wisdom to be found here and I hope you stick around for a while and read as much as you can. Reading the experiences of others can really help you gain some perspective and also help you feel stronger in the decisions you make.
The main thing that stood out for me in your story is that you are both meeting with one attorney. You should each have your own attorney during a divorce. If he cannot afford one, that is not your problem, but I would never have allowed my husband to talk with my attorney while I was divorcing him. There is no excuse for YOUR attorney to be trying to get your husband a job or attempting to help him in any way. That is a direct conflict of interest and my advice to you is to fire that attorney and find another one who will work for YOUR interests. You are the one paying him/her and he/she works for YOU, not you and your husband.