In a marriage if something is bothering you , you should mention it to your spouse. There is no reason to feel guilty. Of course when dealing with an alcoholic, you arew going to get denial and lies. When my husband was drinking[he has 25 years sobriety] I had 2 small children and many dogs , cats and 2 horses. I was really trapped because I could not afford to leave my acre of land- it was filled with my pets. I finally told him someone was going to have to leave. But whoever stayed in the house had the resonsibilty of pet and child care. Thank heavens I called alanon. they told me about a chapter 9 meeting. To ask my husband to go but to go alone if necessary. He went and has been sober ever since. He became sober and realised through the years, a whole bunch of animals had moved in. hugs to you dax