KP-
It might take more than three weeks to get completely on your own feet,
but it's okay.
It takes however long it takes.
In this kind of thing,
awareness is power.
The 'halt' stuff
is just as applicable here
as it is
for any alcoholic in recovery.
Secondly,
it sounds to me like you *are* getting over it -
you're moving him out
and learning to make room
in your life
to attract someone healthier
who has something to give.
yeah, I'm getting over it
moving you out
and moving ON.
I'm all grown up now.
I don't take this crap off anyone any more.
Sometimes I have to tell myself that
every fifteen minutes
until it sinks in.
And maybe no,
he's not your dad
(I love when they use that tired old cliche)
but apparently he's enough LIKE him
to make you want him out of your movie.
To trigger a response
you haven't had to use since then.
There's nothing in the world wrong with wanting an equal energy exchange.
You're not 'wrong' or 'demanding' or any other flippant label
just because you want to be treated by someone
with at least the energy
you give to them.
And -
you don't have to return every call.
You don't have to return ANYcalls
after you say
"I'm done."