Thank you so much. He finally texted me and said "Don't worry, your conscience is clear." Then he called me and told me in a variety of ways that just because he drank ONE day out of the year, I had no reason to worry. "You're gonna have to get over it already!" It was 3 weeks ago. He went on ranting about how he wasn't my dad (my dad was an alcoholic). My ABF drank for 20 years and was sober almost two years until 3 weeks ago, so I supposed he's right, I shouldn't worry.
KittyBoo, how long have you been away from your ex? When you decided on no contact, did you just stop picking up the phone? Did you tell him you were going to do that?
Barb, it does feel like emotional blackmail. And even though I know it, it's so weird that I can't seem to rise above it sometimes.