i agree with laurie, just tell the truth and let the chips fall where they may. i think you are stronger than you think. he's in court because of his actions toward you. his choices and i'm sure you didn't set out to get hurt or end up in court for this reason. i think he'll be just fine, hope he learns a lesson on how to treat others. abuse usually gets progressively worse and if he don't learn this time, he may find a next time but the good thing about this is that it don't have to be with you. your choice. you both are in my prayers.