Do you attend Al-Anon?
Just as the alcoholic needs to have a program of recovery that provides a daily reprieve from the disease, the loved one/spouse/co-dependent needs a program of recovery that reinforces the positive choices they have made in their lives.
It also helps keep us in the present, deal with the past, and move forward to the future.
You deserve someone who will love you and be the partner you deserve in your life. He is out there...and will appear, when it is time, and you are ready.
Peace.