Originally Posted by
SadButHopeful 
I need financial help - my FIL doesn't know that he's drinking again. Do I voice my concerns for myself and my kids to him? I don't think I'm controling the drinking by doing this or enabling, I need to protect myself and the kids.
Please help me to think about what to do. Thank you
Put yourself in FIL's shoes. Wouldn't you want to know if your money was going toward enabling?
L