Kate, I'm sorry to hear you've had a difficult time lately. Now is the time to put all of that growth, strength and knowledge that you've gained in your hard-earned three months of sobriety to good use. There are adaptive and healthy ways to cope that don't rely on numbing away your feelings. Be kind and loving to yourself, take respite when you need it. You will come through this stronger and wiser.
Richard, may I suggest you discuss a no booze in the house rule with your wife? Set boundaries. You're vulnerable right now, the temptation is too strong. I sense the hope and determination in your post, which is awesome. Learn from this relapse and make the changes that you need to maintain your sobriety