I've been on both sides of this thing, brugger & remember well those horrible feelings of betrayal. I was the best enabler ever & did all the wrong things. I never helped my husband, and only made myself sick with worry & resentment. I agree, you need support from others who have been where you are. No one understands like they do. It's a huge relief to be able to share and talk about it. I know having 5 children complicates matters greatly - please let us know how you're doing.