I am so sorry for your pain, it is so understandable.
Do you attend al-anon or see a counselor? Is your daughter old enough to attend ala-teen?
A divorce will solve some things, but the emotional devastation of all you have been through can be eased with help. I hope if you are not getting that, you will consider it.
If your husband did that to your daughter, did he also abuse you??
I find that very frightening!
I suspect your attorney knows that since you were distraught that you probably won't remember much. I suggest you make another appointment and go prepared. Write down everything you need her to know and every question you have. Or take a tape recorder if she will allow that.
You will need to gather your strength and fight for your rights.
If he did abuse you, please see a domestic violence counselor. Domestic violence centers can also arrange for someone to go with you when you go to court and help prepare you for it.
I am sorry that you are going through this, but life is so much better on the other side...you will come out free of this nightmare and be able to build and lead the life you want and deserve....for both you and your children.
(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))