What did your lawyer say?
Document everything...tell the lawyer what you have told us here and tell the lawyer what you want. Include documentation of the problems with your daughter in school as related to the events in the family. And the loss of job and tuition.
I do know that your husband cannot withold assets and not count them...
The courts are supposed to put what is in the best interest of the children first.
But you will have to give them the information to do that and state and request what you believe is best for them.