And there comes another thing. She lives in a town 2 hours away from ours. The original plan would be to spend the weekend there. And the grandmom can't get out of the house, but she wakes everybody up and makes sure they all go to mass. Then they hold some services at her own home.
If I don't go to mass I would be considered rude. (Well I consider rude to wake someone up to do something she does not want to do!). There seems no way out other than just going there for a while and leave... and if bf wants to spend the weekend, well I will be here doing my thing.
hydrogirl, yes sometimes I go for the social events, or when I had issues and no one to talk to... I can go.. no biggie, the thing is that for grandma and others it is SUPERIMPORTANT to "do everything correctly" and I don't think they see someone like me with good eyes. Oh well.
The good thing is that next week and weekend I will be superbusy at work so at least I will buy time ..........