One thing I learned here that I LOVE and helps me so much is LET GO OR BE DRAGGED>>>>They have the same higher power I do. I pray for them. I don't do holidays with them anymore. That was like the paddle with the rubberband and ball on the end getting"hit,hit,hit" with the ball.....I take mini vacations on the holidays and don't spend them with chaos,crazies,poor me,pour me a drinkers....I am so thankful and grateful to now live in the solution instead of the problem....