if i may add,
for 10 months, mine would ask "what do i have to do?"
to which i responded "stop drinking. stop working as a bouncer. do the 12 steps. get a sponsor"
for 10 months, i said the same thing.
you know what, when he called, he'd ask the same question again. to which i would respond the same.
and what did he do? he drank, he threatened, he asked the same question, he kept working at the door, he drank. oh, and he'd call and ask me the same question.
enough is enough!