Originally Posted by
nytepassion 
I think once they are gone we have unrealistic expectations. We think kicking them out is like a magic potion and that once he is gone he will realize just what he lost and then everything is going to be different and it is very disappointing when it is not.
I think most of us have, at one time or another, done the kick out thing, expecting this to compel a change. Perhaps a different way of looking at it, is to lose all expectations and do so for one's own sanity.