Pam -
I'm probably starting to sound like a broken record but if you believe him to be capable of violence toward you - he probably is. Toward the end I became convinced that if I just stayed calm in the face of the terrible verbal abuse, if I just went about my business that I would be safe until he either sought help or I was able to get out of there. Unfortunately, my timing was off and I had to call 911 for help. Trust your instincts. Make a plan - just in case. Keep your keys in a place that you can grab them on your way out of the house. Keep a phone handy. I managed to get out of the house and into the van where I used the cell phone to call 911. Trust your instincts and be prepared. I hope that I am overreacting to your post and if so, please forgive me but my own experience is coloring my outlook on others who feel like they are in danger. Take care.
Hugs, Jo