Originally Posted by
honoryourself 
I had so many red flags I ignored. I think ignoring the obvious reasons to turn back was my stubbornness, and after the fact it was like, if I admit failure then I have to admit I was wrong to ignore the flags..
I know it! Early on in the relationship he smoked. I said smoking was a deal breaker. Then, his smoking went underground.
One day, i came over (without calling, but without ill intent), his door was open, and I found some cigarettes in his house. I sat down with my back to them (just to see what would happen). He slyly scooped them up and hid them. I confronted. He lied, downplayed, got angry and finally cried. Same story as my "intervention" last week.
Same exact thing.
Did I catch the hint then? No. I felt bad for him struggling with addiction and felt honored that he loved me so much he was afraid to admit his issues (yikes! Can you say codie alert??)
So, there you go. Signs were CLEAR. I just didn't want to see them.