This board is an excellent resource. Hope you hang around..there is a lot to learn. What I find most fascinating, is the similarity of experiences. It has helped me to feel neither alone or insane, which has helped me tremendously.
I'll be paying attention as you forge your way through custody. I am still with my AH and we have a 13 y.o son. One of the reasons for staying is that I cannot imagine leaving him alone with my son. We're taking it day to day.
I hope you are taking care of yourself. It's tough.