oh I"ve got some thoughts all right.
This man is a monster. He's lucky you didn't stab him in his sleep, all though once the anger state hits that still will be an option.
Change the locks and get a lawyer. Don't look back.
You do not deserve to be treated this way.
What do you think of that? I mean it. Do you just want us to tell you how to change him? How do get him to respect you?
I did this for a long time. Tried tried tried. You can't change him. So if you want to live your life this way, the way it is right now, you can.
I say change the locks and get a lawyer. Don't look back, except to sort out why you stayed for so long.
And I say this because that's what I"m doing. Untangling myself from a monster.