My crosses to bear: perfectionism, altruism, trying so hard to make everyone else happy that I forgot all about making myself happy!
I read a book many years ago when I was at a cross-roads in my life. It helped me to dig deep and go after what I really wanted (at that time it was to go back to school). The book is called Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway. Great book.
Oh and I forgot....I have pages and pages of psycho-dramatically planned speeches that I have written to my ABF, all in a feeble attempt to *convince* him to change his ways, none of which I ever actually used on him. But those pages ended up having a good upside. As I read them now, they all say the SAME thing! 4 years and I'm still writing the SAME story!
I hope that I will someday learn....Being hear certainly helps a great deal!