Who are you trying to heal?
I am in the process of moving house at the moment. Among my sortings out, I came across some old notes that I had made as a result of a particularly thought-provoking al-anon meeting.
In a nutshell, i realised that I was trying to heal my Mum of her PND through healing my fiance of his alcoholism. i.e. my little kid was trying to make it OK with her parent by healing those in the here and now.
I discussed this with some people who I know have been in similar scenarios. Man, I wish we could have measured the output of all of those lightbulbs going off.
Who are you trying to heal? Is it working?