imtheidiot, permit me to be a supportive BB about one thing in your post. If your child is small enough to be in daycare and not school, I wouldn't worry too much about the impact of a separation or divorce on him/her. Not that it WON'T affect them at all, but I have read and have noticed with my own 5-year-old that they are pretty resilient little buggers at that age. And if there was any abuse/drama in your relationship, your child will probably thrive once he or she is in a safer, less chaotic home.