Oh yeah, and AH's "reasons" were that I wasn't "fun and spontaneous" (since I had this thing called a job and these things called kids that he and my "friend" apparently have never heard of) and that I didn't have an "inner prettiness" (like the type that "friends" who eff married men have). So, you may not like what you hear. He told me all this before I found out about the affair, so I spent months agonizing over what a horrible person I was.