As I have learned, we need to say what we mean, mean what we say, and say it kindly. This includes boundaries. Our boundaries. In other words, when my AD was living with me, one boundary was that she could not use and live in my home. Now I didn't say, she couldn't use, only that MY boundary was that I would not live with this unacceptable behavior.
Also, no matter what, I ALWAYS pray for my AD, everyday, sometimes more than once a day. Prayer is the only avenue I have to help her.
Hugs,
Chris
Bigsis...........Ditto to everything you wrote, I did these same things so many times, til I finally figured out none of it would make AD clean, it only kept her from reaching her bottom.