Originally Posted by
transformyself 
For me it's almost always about fear. Fear fuels my anger and sadness and shame.
I know it sounds nuts. It'some kind of Buddist thing. I learned this trick from a disembodied spirit being channelled through a deaf Quaker woman. True story!
It doesn't sound nuts at all. It's actually very helpful to recognize that the root of it is fear. I know I usually want to deny the fear. I don't want to be afraid, I'd rather be angry! LOL
I've heard it described as waves. Like letting the waves wash over you, even when they're really strong and you feel like you're being washed away. If you just manage to ride out the emotion, it will recede, just like the wave. And you will be on stable footing again--until the next wave roars in.
I love "Buddhist things." Much wisdom to be had there.
You've reminded me of something that I will try to go find and bump up.....
L