Hey Ginger. I'm sorry about the loss of your mother.
I think you're doing great. While for years we covered up all of our feelings by numbing them "feeling" is and can be so overwhelming. All I have for you is to be good to yourself. If you want to sit in your PJ's and cry all day, do it. Don't worry about what others think, don't compare, your feelings are yours and you're entitled to them.
Time really does help heal some of the pain. The problem is time, sometimes it can be a while. Hang in there, lean on us here. My heart goes out to you. :ghug3